It's Not What's on Your Head But What's Underneath

I just took out all of my weave.

Yes, I have had weave (extensions) for ten months now. And I don't know if I was just sick of having long hair or sick of getting it done or sick of paying to get it done, but this week, I just knew that I wanted it out. I was done! I scheduled a hair appointment and thought "this is it. short hair." And I had a mini freak out in the shower when I realized how short it actually was, but. I'm gonna do it. Something about having fake hair has never set well with me; I was always worried that it looked bad or that people could tell. And I told people that I had weave, I was never ashamed. But it just didn't feel like me. Yes, I liked having long hair, but I also live my life very natural. I rarely wear make-up, I really just enjoy wearing jeans and a t-shirt/tank top, I don't wear heels very often; I'm just me. And having weave always messed with that part of me, the part of me that is very simplistic and takes max 25 minutes to get ready to go out (if I have my clothes already chosen). So, for me, this wasn't the best option.

Also, I kind of felt like getting weave was/is a scam. There are two different ways that you can get weave-glued on or sewed in. They are both expensive, but glued requires more upkeep, since it's just glued to your head, it tends to fall out a little more. I have had both options, but lately my last hairdresser kept being like "glued in is better for your hair" since sew in requires braids and then the weave is sewn to the braids. HOWEVER on an Americorps salary, glued in got pricey, as you really needed to get it done ever 2-3 weeks, and at close to a hundred each time, there was no way I could afford to do that. Plus, you have to buy the weave every once in awhile, so that also increased the price.

Basically, me choosing to go short is because of how I feel on the inside about my hair (I was feeling like a fake impostor) and because I'm poor. Maybe one day I'll go back to weave or HELLS BELLS maybe my hair will be long again like it was when I was in high school/the beginning of college. Who can say? I already know what hairstyle I want! Taraji P. Henson's hair at the Oscars really does it for me. I think it's super cute and there are long bangs involved, which if you have never seen a picture of me, I'm in love with my long bangs.




See? Super cute. And if it ends up not being as cute, it's just hair. Eventually it will grow back.

You Seem Like You'd be a good Dad

This. is the post. About Jon & Kate + 8. If you are new to the world of celebrity gossip, or just have been living under a rock for the past three months, then I will give you some background. Jon & Kate were a couple who fell in love and got married but then found out that they had difficulty getting pregnant. They then got artificially insemeniated (well, Kate did) and had twins. Then they decided that they wanted just ONE more child, and got artificially insemeniated again. However, this time there were SEVEN kids, instead of one. They decided to go on with the pregnancy; unfortunately one of the babies died, but six survived. They were then profiled on some Discovery Health shows because of the large number of their family, and eventually, they were given their own tv show on Discovery Health, who then moved it to TLC. That leads us to today, where these young children and their parents have been on tv for a good couple of years now. I have enjoyed watching them and have my favorites among the children: Mady, Alexis and Aeden. All very adorable and while I think Mady might have some childhood depression issues, still, they are in a loving household. Regardless of the previous rumors that Kate is crazy and sucks and just wants the cameras, they are loved. And also, just because she spanks her children doesn't mean anything, as long as she's not pulling a Joe Jackson and beating them everyday. But, I digress.

I watched this show because I liked how cute they did things, how they had special days for all of the children so that they didn't feel left out and the fact that all of the siblings really love each other. However, then came an annoucement: Jon and Kate were getting a divorce. And they were still showing episodes before this annoucement. The fifth season premiere was difficult to watch. I sat down with my sister to do so, and thought I would be watching a wonderful episode about the sextuplets sixth birthday. Boy, was I wrong. While their party looked like it was a lot of fun, it was plauged by the paparazzi and the fact that their parents weren't visably speaking to each other. Jon was only in the episode for about 10 minutes, and at the party, Kate and him barely spoke to each other. And this is where I got disgusted with the show. The fact of the matter is, there were a couple more episodes that were being shown after this one. I'm sure the parents continued their chilly repertoire while the kids carried on, probably not unknowlingly. I couldn't watch them because I couldn't support having this family's personal struggle with marriage and seperation and divorce be on television. Not only does it suck to have parents who are divorced (as mine are, and have been since I was 10) but the fact that there is now going to be a recorded documenation of the dissemination of their marriage for their children to look at in the future is ridiculous. More ridiculous is that they have other people watching it. It was mentioned in a previous season's episode that the sextuplets enjoy watching their own show on dvd. I'm sure it is really fun to see themselves on tv doing a lot of fun things. For that, those dvds will be memorable, as I'm jealous of people who have home videos from their childhood. However, now they have recorded documenation that their lives are about to change very quickly and very sadly for them. At some point, these children will go on to different kinds of schools, where children might not be very nice to them, and point out that their parent's marriage broke on television. Some family issues are very private, and even though, yes they signed on for this show, and yes, this is reality tv, at some point everyone has to take a step back and realize, for better or for worse, that these children are going to be effected by this.

I don't want to judge them for being on tv, I don't want to say that that caused stress in their marriage, because in all honesty we will never know. And I was pretty nuetral about picking sides or judging Jon and/or Kate in their marriage.

HOWEVER now that there are photos of Jon walking around and taking vacations with some 23 year old ugmo, I cannot keep silent. While yes, I don't know what happened in their marriage and yes, it's not really my business, I happen to think that this is just distasteful. I recognize that you want to have a different life and want to move on, but what I think he is not thinking about is HIS CHILDREN. I found out that my dad cheated on my mom and then had to sit back and watch my father take this woman to family functions where my mom should have been or see him kiss her in public. It was hard. And for Jon to be going around taking vacations with this woman while not yet officially and legally divorced from Kate is rough. And, again, how do I know he's running around with a 23 year old not hottie? The tabloids. There are HUNDREDS of pictures all over the pleace of them on vacation, them on a boat, them grossly smoking cigarettes together. It's just out of hand. Jon has brought this woman to their home to hang out with the children and she sunbathed. While the sextuplets are young enough to probably be confused about this woman and like her, the twins are older and I'm sure it's difficult for them to sit around and watch her and their father parade around, all the while knowing that this is who their father is dating now. I just think that Jon needs to have a little self control and not be selfish. The thing about divorce is that it hurts all parties, but the adults usually spring back a little faster than the children do. Divorce is the most hurtful to children and the fact that this divorce is so public is just going to make it worse in the long run for these children. Unfortunately, Jon seems to have not figured that out yet. Just because you don't let your children read the tabloids does not mean that other children's parents do not let their children read the tabloids. At some point, these pictures, and any more pictures in the future are going to come up. I say that we should all stop giving Jon, Kate and their 8 children any attention and let them figure out their own problems.

Also, I only call the 23 year old girlfriend not cute because she's really not cute. Maybe it's the way she dresses, I don't know.

D.O.A.

It's difficult to update anything when you have a busy schedule/are trying to finish reading Harry Potter before the midnight showing and are only on chapter 7 out of 30. :/
I'm worried I won't finish it, and my roommate Molly and I are reading it outloud because we both want to read it.

Anyway, on Tuesday, Patrick and I saw Jay-Z (note: Patrick is my boyfriend. I guess I can call him that in my blog.) And. It was AWESOME. Seriously, I really enjoyed it and I now have a really cute shirt to wear that will look GREAT with skinny jeans. I kind of want to wear it to the No Doubt concert but feel like that might be too weird. But maybe people will get it and I'll get Jay-Z shout outs. Anyway, I love summer, outdoor concerts, even if there is difficulty with getting as close as you wanted to. I'm really excited for No Doubt because they have seriously been my favorite band since I was ten, eleven and to see them is going to be awesome. Gwen Stefani is like my favorite, I personally think she can do no wrong and was jammin' to "Hollaback Girl" before everybody else thought it was cool. I still love that song and will STILL blast it on the radio. It's going to be super duper awesome to see No Doubt live, I'm going to enjoy every minute of it.

I was going to make a post eventually about Twilight and also now one about Jon and Kate plus 8 but i'm too lazy right now and would rather get on the telephone. Maybe I'll write one about my adventures with videogames tomorrow evening at some point too?

Oh, but also, I got into grad school. I keep forgetting to tell people that I'm going to Loyola University Chicago in the fall. HOLLER